The green eyed monster and conflicts at work.

It is not easy to be me, no really I am not kidding. I have come to love myself so much over the years and I have realized my own value. And I have learned to see my own faults and to be the bigger person even if my dark passenger would love to give people what they deserve.

But it is even harder to be the person standing next to me especially if they have low self-asteem and thinks that the world is out to get them. Can you imagine always being on guard and bite the head of the people because you think they will hurt you? It is exhausting, I know I used to be one of them.. They remind me of a wounded animal in a corner who is trying to bite anyone who tries to come near them, even the person who will care for them and their wounds.. Stupid but it is their loss and I feel sorry for them but they put themself through that. And only they can change their behavior.

So where I work there is a massive jealousy problem because we work on commission based salaries and the season is not going so good so the competition is hard. My colleague comes from the same background as me, has the same options as me but she is in a loop of struggles and she choose to be jealous instead of sharing the luck and be happy for others. Somehow I have ended up in one sided competition with her. She compares both herself and everything to/with me and when I am successful she becomes really angry and goes away to her corner and stays there licking her wounds and then she comes back again.

I am an Alpha personality and that means that I have very sharp elbows that helps me reach my goals, I try to do things everyday to feel better, I help people and share their joy but most of all I stand up for myself and what I believe is right and this is what she doesn’t do.

Instead if talking with the person she is in a disagreement with she gets angry, walks away, gossips and then tells the boss and gets the person into trouble. And I am normally that person. I have been patient, very patient. But I can see that this behavior is not changing and it is giving me toxic energy so after the last argument I had enough, I lost my temper and showed her the dark passengers voice and then in the evening I wrote a calm letter based on facts and telling her exactly how things are and how it will be from now on. After that I did some EFT to release some anger. And thank God, it helped!

Then it hit me, the reason to why I have been so patient with her and why we fight like this is because she is reminding me of my mother and the toxic relationship we had. They both always try to make me the bad guy and sees themselves as a victim. You simply cannot do right by them. People like that is their own biggest enemy and no one can put them down as good as themselves.

I realised that this has nothing to do with me. As soon as I realised that, I felt peaceful and ok and today I am at work, back in business keeping a professional distance and waiting for my customers to come and I think I will have a kickass sale today.

So when you have a conflict at work.
1. Try to talk but without screaming.

2. If you feel that the other person doesn’t listen, write them a letter.

3. Show them that you are the bigger person by remaining calm and professional.

4. When they start to act out then walk away.

5.Keep the conversations on a work related level.

6. Remember that you are so much ahead of them so forgive them because they don’t understand better.

7. Don’t accept their silent appology, and pretend that everything is back to normal. If they did something wrong they have to take responsibility for that.

8. Meditate!

9. Try EFT or Ho’oponopono to clear the energies.

10. Never let them hold you back, go out there and be fabulous and take the world because it is yours to take!

Zoom zoom!
Tinha

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Danish hot dogs and manifestations in action..

I just have to share with you guys.. Yesterday was just AMAZING!!
I did my normal routine with morning meditation, training, qi gong and tapping before I went to work. And I felt really good and I was smiling all the way to work. One thing what I do when driving to work is that I say thank you while driving on my little electric scooter. I try to find as many things I can to be grateful for while driving.ย 

Anyway, let me tell you….. The customers was coming in a steady stream, THAT has never happened before! I even got customers from the front door! I am selling and I love it!
And then my returning guests came and it was wonderful to see them and they brought me Danish Hot Dogs and some other food I had mentioned that I missed. Isn’t that really sweet of them. I was so moved that I cried happy tears. Oh and they bought some jewelry as well.ย 

And then customers asked me if we had any painkillers so I took one box from the company, since it was Saturday evening and everything was closed already and it would be closed today. So when I was driving home I was thinking that it would be nice and convenient if the emergency pharmacy would be on my way home… And guess what… It was! ๐Ÿ™‚ย 

I asked for help with the move of my things in Sweden and help is coming from all over!. It is really going my way now. I am happy like a Ferrari on a test drive on autobahn.

Manifest moving of boxes?

Hello dear co-creators!
I hope you are doing amazingly well!

Here in Turkey it is a bit turbulent but not in my city, Marmaris. I am glad though that people are starting to think for themselves and that they are reacting. Atatรผrk would have been so proud over them!

Anyway I am facing a huge challenge.. My boxes that are left in Sweden from when I moved to Turkey needs to be moved. So now I need to manifest the whole move! Talk about stress trying to arrange it all but I will make it! I just need to stay postive and not let the stress take over.

Dear cute Universe,

I would like to order 4 volonteers with big cars and strong muscles to help moving my things next week so the move will go nice and smoothly.
I would really appreciate any help I can get.
Thank you very much and I wish you a nice day! ๐Ÿ™‚

Love Tinha

Ok there, I made the order. Now I just have to believe and stay in the flow. Easier said than done but I find that meditating is really helpful with that and also the qi gong I do in the morning seems to make wonders.

Now I better get prepared for my group with Danish customers who will arrive shortly to the gold center. ๐Ÿ™‚

Oh, I almost forgot… I have managed to manifest half the rent as a pay raise! :)) It was totally amazing and very much appreciated.

Ok you kids,
Be nice and stay safe!

~Tinha

Working in a goldmine la, la, la, la…

Hello you wonderful people and the rest of you as well! I hope you are all doing great!

I am sitting here at work working on my masterplan. I want to change my life, I want to do something different. I want to help people like me! I want to make something worthwile. I want to be free to plan my day as I want and work in a way that suits me. I mean working from home or the beach would be awesome!
I want to be a feelgooder!! ๐Ÿ™‚

So I am currently looking for different coaching courses. I have no idea where to start except for that it has to be a reasonable price and online.
I want to learn everything NLP, EFT, chakra clearing, yeah you name it. I guess I need a coach as well!! :))

If anyone of you knows about a great course then please feel free to send me the link.

Now I am gonna get ready for my Danish guests that hopefully will arrive soon and buy loads of gold! ๐Ÿ™‚