Feelization

Hello you beautiful people, I hope you are all doing well.

I have always been interested with visualization since I was 15 years old and started to read this book that my mother had bought, it was called Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life by Shakti Gawain
I loved it and I read it so much that it started to fall apart, I can tell you that my mother was not happy about that. I highly recommend this book because it has a lot of good advice, especially if you are a novice to visualization.

However, I had a problem.. No matter how hard I tried to visualize I could not see things in my mind. The disappointment was huge. I tried, I kept on trying and then I finally gave up. As soon as I came across a page or a book that mentioned visualization it was like game over for me. I kept trying though and I kept trying to find information about the HOW to visualize and boy I have gone through a lot of YouTube videos and webpages.

If you are one of those people who can visualize then I am very happy for you, but if you are like me, I want you to know that there is hope. You see, one day I stumbled upon a webpage that told me that it is OK if you can’t visualize. It is the emotion that is the active ingredient you see. So I started to try to feel how it would feel to be where I wanted to be, how it would feel to have the things I wanted to have and that was a bit easier.

So then one morning, when I was sitting on the bus on my way to work, I was looking out the window while listening to music. I got a weird feeling that I was not sitting on a bus, I was sitting on an airplane, I was not on my way to work but to Los Angeles! I started to smile with my whole face and it felt fantastic!! I finally got it! This is what you and I need to do to get the things we want. We need to feel how it feels to be there and not here. Ridiculously simple right? I can tell you that this realization felt like a million bucks and it made manifesting a lot more fun. I call this process Feelization and I like it very much and I practice it a lot.

So what are you going to attract into your life using Feelization? List it below in the comment field and share the energy. 🙂

Stay in the vortex peps!

Tinha

 

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Loving the people who criticizes you.

Hello all of you beautiful people and the rest of you too! 😀

I learn something new everyday and yesterday I learned 3 things.

  1. Being lazy will come back and bite you in your ass.
  2. Don’t just take someones word for things, always look things up!
  3. Love the people who calls you out on your bullshit and criticizes you.. This is a really tough one but very important.

I have to admit that sometimes I am way to lazy for my own good. You see, I have been in the gold business for a few years now and I wasn’t really interested in the gold when I started, gold is gold, it is a metal, and I don’t need to be an expert to sell it. I mean it is not like selling a computer where I have to know every component and be able to explain what it does.

So I didn’t read up on it, sure I read a little bit but basically I just listened to the guy, one of my sales managers who gave me the basic introduction when I started, he is also the one who gives the information to the UK people that visits our store. I mean he has been doing this for years and he knows what he is talking about, right?

Man, was I wrong..
It turns out that he does not know what he is talking about and he doesn’t have his facts straight and that means that I don’t have my facts straight. How did I learn about this? Let me tell ya, yesterday in the middle of my presentation to one of our groups a man called me out on it, in the middle of the lecture, in front of everyone. Guess three times how embarrassing that was on a scale from 1-10.. I would say around 297!!!! And whose fault was it?? MINE!! No matter how much I want to blame the guy who taught me, I can’t! I didn’t cross check the information I got from him because I was lazy and quite frankly I didn’t give a damn. The result, it made me look unprofessional and that is the one thing I can’t stand. So I am truly grateful for this man, who pointed out my mistakes. He taught me to always check my facts and not just take someones word for it. Thank you Sir and thank you Universe who sent him to give me this lesson.

You see the people who comes into our lives and points out our mistakes are mentors.
Because of this man I will now better myself, my lectures and never make the same mistake again. For this I am grateful.

How does it get any better than this?

Namaste,
Tinha

I am walking down another street!

I love Dr Wayne Dyer and I miss him a lot, bless his soul. I often watch his seminars on YouTube and I try to implement what he taught us in his videos. There is especially one seminar, where he reads a poem by Portia Nelson that I like very much, and yesterday late at night I finally, got it. I really got it!

You see, I am a single woman, who is very attracted to the alpha male types. You know the highly successful men, who make things happen, they can make decisions and they are going somewhere in life. Many of them are business leaders, managers, CEO:s etc and some of them are narcissists…

I am very familiar with narcissists, I was raised by one, my mother. I later on dated them, but at that time they were bad boys. Then I grew up and met a very successful man, let’s call him P. He was a biker, but not one of those biker gang guys. He was handsome, smart, cool, and he could make money out of anything, he was very talented. I was so impressed by him, his intelligence and his ability to make money. And the best part, he really liked me, or at least so I thought..
He also had a son, who I later found out also was a narcissist and I spent more than 4 years living with them. It nearly destroyed me, I lost myself in the process. He broke my heart totally and it took a long, long time for me to pick up the pieces. This was before I moved to Turkey and he was one of the reasons to why I moved.

I cut all ties and seized all contact with him and his son. No fb, no messages, nothing. This was really hard because I was obsessed with him, his attention was like heroin to me. But I did it, because of  5 very good friends of mine. Veronica, Stellan, Christer, Ingela, Jeppe and Victoria. Without them I couldn’t have done it. Thank you!

I have bumped into him again a few times after that when I have been home, but I totally ignore him, no hello, no contact. I know very well that I can’t even talk to him even once, because I will be drawn into his web all over again and it will kill me this time. It is just like a sober heroin addict, who just  wants to have one small fix for old times sake. *KAABOOM* Straight back into addiction! And I love myself way too much to even consider it.

This was back in 2008 when the relationship ended and even today he is still effecting me very much, I dream about him a lot at night, he is in my mind. Sometimes I can hear his voice when there is something that triggers a memory. I used to hate him but I don’t anymore. I am grateful, because of him I started to read more and more about human behavior, I started to study my own behavior and I improved myself and many other positive things, I became more aware. I would never have done that if I would have stayed in his presence. He also taught me what red flags and warning signs to look out for. This was really learning by doing.

Unfortunately though, I don’t dare to trust my instincts when I see the red flags. I start to question myself, is it me who is overly cautious and paranoid? Perhaps I am just being silly and scared after the relationship I had? So I find myself in the same position over and over again since the universe will unmercifully repeat the situation until you have learned the damned lesson! That is how it is and I am a very, very slow learner sometimes.
Until yesterday that is..

Last year in 2o15, I met a man online, lets call him R.  He seemed perfect, he was tall, very intellectual, wanted kids, had an extremely high IQ, he was looking for the same kind of relationship as I was looking for and he really understood me. Sure there was a few things that was weird, we only had contact when he wanted to and sometimes he avoided my questions, it was like he was blowing hot and cold but I was really interested in him. We decided to meet and he flew out here to meet me. At this time I had some intense dreams about my ex P, I couldn’t understand why I had that. I was totally focused on the new guy so it didn’t make sense at all. Guess what, during those 3 days we spent together there was temper tantrums, he pushed me, he screamed at me for interrupting him, he got upset because I didn’t take good enough pictures of him and he took an incredible amount of selfies (around 100). It was all about him. I even left him in the restaurant in the middle of dinner because he was behaving totally unacceptable. After we parted I sent him an email asking him to send the few pictures he took of me, I never got an answer. He was another narcissist. The good news is that this time it took 3 days to figure it and not 4 years.

After this episode, I have bumped into a few more narcissists online, and the most current one is a Swedish man who was behaving very much like R, he even looks like R! The funny part is that it is the same story all over again, self focused, he is promoting himself, disappearing for a few weeks and then showing up again just to be so incredibly busy but he wants to fly out here and meet me. And guess what, I got so pissed off by his behavior!
Who the fuck do he think he is? You see, since I have been around so many narcissists, I have read up on them and I have learned to discover them sooner and I know how to break up with them. But it also made me stronger and it made me realize my own value and when someone tries to walk all over me I become angry and that anger helps me move mountains. So when Mr Sweden contacted me I politely blew him off and it felt great! You cannot win or get revenge on a narcissist, don’t even try. Just make sure that they leave you alone.

And then I realized one thing, this time I have been thinking a lot and having very vivid dreams about both P and R!! I didn’t make the connection until this Swedish man tried to do his trick again. Whenever I come close to a narcissist my subconscious is guiding and warning me and I have been too blocked to see it! *rolls up a newspaper and hits myself on the head with it!* Stupid, stupid, stupid!!

I mean it is so obvious, how could I not see it?!  And then when I went to bed and I had finished writing in my journal, it hit me straight in the face, gently with a chair, what Wayne Dyer and Portia Nelson wanted to say with this poem. Late shall the sinner awake..
If you want to see the video with Wayne Dyer when he reads the poem, click here

THERE’S A HOLE IN MY SIDEWALK
Autobiography in Five Short Chapters
By Portia Nelson

Chapter One
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost …. I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter Two
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend that I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter Three
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit … but, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter Four
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter Five
I walk down another street.

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I am SO walking down another street my friends!!
Namaste,
Tinha

You have a choice.

Hello fellow earthlings.

A few things have happened since our last time. I am in a new town and I am working at a new place. It is still in Turkey but it is a town called Kusadasi. I got tired of being in Marmaris during the winter because it was really a struggle for me to be there. I will not go into all the negative things, let’s just say that I am happy that I made this decision. I will be going back to Marmaris 13th of April.

So this new job is still in the gold business and I am surrounded by abundance! I am wearing jewelry with a price tag of 290.000 Euros and that is just one necklace!! I mean how does it get any better than that??  🙂 I feel so rich! I have changed as a person and I am getting in touch with my femininity again. I feel so good here that I don’t want to go back to my other job but I am trying to put my focus on the positive aspects of it. By example I will be close to my chiropractor and that means that I will have less pain in my pelvic area, I will be able to take wonderful walks along the beach every morning and I will live closer to the ocean. I will see my street cat Floke again and my cute little neighbor Koray 🙂 I will have my hammock to lay in during the summer evening and I can look at the stars and my new friend from work is actually living in Marmaris so I wont be alone. Not to mention my wonderful friends from Scandinavia, UK and the Netherlands  that will come for visits!
So there is a lot of positive things. That is what I am focusing on, there are always something good to hang on to.

I can give you another example, the tourism here in Turkey has been very effected by the terrorists and people thinks that it is a major war zone over here so they are cancelling their trips. Our boss decided that he needed to cut our salaries with 10% very month temporarily everyone was so angry and upset. People turned to me and asked me why I didn’t seem upset with it. My response: Of course it effects me but do you know what, right now I am just grateful that I still have my job and that no one got sacked.

You see, it is all about how you choose to see things.
Later on we heard that we might get the money back at the end of the season so that’s what I am focusing on right now. 🙂

Be safe.
Tinha

 

 

February is here and it is time for another challenge!

images (1)Hi guys,

I hope you are all doing great! Let me tell you that I am on a roll over here. 🙂 I am going through a prosperity course and today I was listening to Carole Doré’s Visualization – The Power of Your Heart! You can find it here. Let me tell you that it is AWESOME!! I was so exited about the visualizations and the techniques she is teaching, they are just great! I will write more about these things but today I want to write about complaints.

She talked about the power we put into things and how it gets reinforced and multiplies every time we say:
Oh my God you don’t know what an idiot my ex is!!
Seriously did you see how that jerk just cut in front of me?!
Oh WHY is this happening to me??!! AGAIN??
Oh my boyfriend is such a dick, let me tell you……….

See where I am going with this? How many times a day do we not complain to our girlfriends, colleagues, family etc? We need to stop it right now because we are only attracting more crap by doing so! And I sure don’t want that anymore so I am releasing it just like I would do with a moldy fruit. It is going out of my mind, out of my life and out of my home. I am totally done with it!

So I have decided to make a challenge for myself and from today do my best to become complaint free and find different ways to deal with it and NOT repeat the bad things that happens to my friends because that is just like reliving it and giving it more energy to make my life miserable. No, no, no not anymore 🙂

So from now on I will only write positive statuses on FB, not say that I am broke, and as soon as I complain I will list 10 things I am grateful about. When people around me complain I will not participate in that conversation and lead it into something else because listening to someone complain is just as contagious as the flu!

I strongly believe that I will see some positive effects of this in my life!  I am so excited that I can’t wait, magical things will happen! 🙂

So that is my challenge for the next 21 days since that is what it takes to break a behavior.
So who is with me, raise a hand! 🙂

PS I finished my vision board and I am so pleased with it! 1544374_10151928921129562_192733962_n

 

7 Days Of Gratitude – Day 7

I am so grateful that I am feeling so much better today.
I am grateful that I have a dry home.
I am grateful that the cats are sleeping and relaxing.
I am glad that I am alive.
I am grateful for my body, mind and soul.
I am grateful for all the new followers and likes I have gotten for these posts. Love you guys and bless you! 🙂
I am grateful for Louise Hay, Wayne Dyer and Abraham Hicks.
I am grateful for my dear friend Marina, she is awesome!! 
I am grateful that I have a printer.
I am grateful that I am not on any medications today. 🙂
I am grateful that I have come up with some alternatives for my meds! 
I am grateful that I have a tablet and the kindle app. 
I am grateful that I have an amazing man in my life.
I am grateful that I finally have peace in my mind.
I am grateful that people like and appreciate my paintings.
I am grateful that I live in a hot country.
I am grateful that it doesn’t snow here.
I am grateful that the lightning didn’t struck here last night.
I am grateful that the little puppy is doing great in dog pound and is not Cujo II anymore!!
I am grateful for all the nice people I come across in my life.
I am grateful for everything my grandparents taught me.
I am grateful that I got to know Peter.
I am grateful that my niece is feeling a bit better.
I am grateful that it is day 7 lol

So this was the last day and I really want to thank you guys who have liked and started to follow my blog. It was really hard to find things to write down but it is very good to do and I feel better! 🙂 I am gonna try to do it every day for myself and weekly on the blog.
Stay safe!
Tinha 

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7 Days Of Gratitude – Day 6

I am grateful that I have a printer so I can work on my vision board.
I am grateful that I am feeling so much better today.
I am grateful that I have a cozy and loving man in my life.
I am grateful that I have a home that is waterproof.
I am grateful that I didn’t have to go out today.
I am grateful that I got to speak with Stellan and Lotta today. I really miss them.
I am grateful that my mum called to let me know that everything is ok back home.
I am grateful that it isn’t so cold anymore.
I am grateful that I have creative inspiration.
I am grateful that the spring will start soon.
I am grateful that my back is so much better today!
I am grateful that I managed without any pain killers.
I am grateful that my friend left a bit of Amarullo here 😛
I am grateful that I have this blog.
I am grateful for all the gurus that cross my path.
I am grateful for being alive.
I am grateful for being me.
I am grateful that universe has got my back and that all is well.
I am grateful that money is coming to me in various ways.
I am grateful that I am releasing weight effortlessly around my waist, hips and thighs.

gratitude thanksgiving