Loving the people who criticizes you.

Hello all of you beautiful people and the rest of you too! 😀

I learn something new everyday and yesterday I learned 3 things.

  1. Being lazy will come back and bite you in your ass.
  2. Don’t just take someones word for things, always look things up!
  3. Love the people who calls you out on your bullshit and criticizes you.. This is a really tough one but very important.

I have to admit that sometimes I am way to lazy for my own good. You see, I have been in the gold business for a few years now and I wasn’t really interested in the gold when I started, gold is gold, it is a metal, and I don’t need to be an expert to sell it. I mean it is not like selling a computer where I have to know every component and be able to explain what it does.

So I didn’t read up on it, sure I read a little bit but basically I just listened to the guy, one of my sales managers who gave me the basic introduction when I started, he is also the one who gives the information to the UK people that visits our store. I mean he has been doing this for years and he knows what he is talking about, right?

Man, was I wrong..
It turns out that he does not know what he is talking about and he doesn’t have his facts straight and that means that I don’t have my facts straight. How did I learn about this? Let me tell ya, yesterday in the middle of my presentation to one of our groups a man called me out on it, in the middle of the lecture, in front of everyone. Guess three times how embarrassing that was on a scale from 1-10.. I would say around 297!!!! And whose fault was it?? MINE!! No matter how much I want to blame the guy who taught me, I can’t! I didn’t cross check the information I got from him because I was lazy and quite frankly I didn’t give a damn. The result, it made me look unprofessional and that is the one thing I can’t stand. So I am truly grateful for this man, who pointed out my mistakes. He taught me to always check my facts and not just take someones word for it. Thank you Sir and thank you Universe who sent him to give me this lesson.

You see the people who comes into our lives and points out our mistakes are mentors.
Because of this man I will now better myself, my lectures and never make the same mistake again. For this I am grateful.

How does it get any better than this?

Namaste,
Tinha

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Ho ‘oponopono made simple

This is a long post about Ho ‘oponopono but well worth reading.

In a nutshell it is all about forgiveness. It’s about bringing all of those irritating and nutty people you meet and have problems with into a place of forgiveness for all their messed-up ways. Because, in Polynesian cultures, many believe that one’s so-called errors and the subsequent guilt can cause illness. The way to counter the illness is to confess the error. One who fails to confess dies. You have to step up and take responsibility and confess and after that comes atonement.

A heartfelt request for forgiveness is made. It goes something like:
I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you

Once you have made the confession and apology is made, the illness loses its power.
And therein lies the healing. Ho’oponopono is all about healing.
The transgressor, a.k.a. the bad boss, bad guy, family jerk, ex boyfriend, etc is healed.

When you put out a good vibe out there, you have the power to heal. Your self, your family, the people who surrounds you and your world. And it’s your job on this planet to put out a good vibe. You can’t throw a dinner party (your life!) and just sit in the corner and then expect everyone else to bring you the dinner (happiness)!
So forget who is to blame and who was wrong. Just do it and do it for YOU (and the other person) and you will start to feel better.

HO’OPONOPONO

By Joe Vitale

“Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients–without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate’s chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person’s illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

“When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn’t make any sense. It wasn’t logical, so I dismissed the story.

“However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho ‘oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn’t let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood “total responsibility” to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it’s out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We’re responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does–but that’s wrong.

“The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.

Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

“Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

“‘After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,’ he told me. ‘Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.’ I was in awe.’Not only that,’ he went on, ‘but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.’

“This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: ‘What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?’

‘I was simply healing the part of me that created them,’ he said. I didn’t understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life–is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

“Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don’t like–is up for you to heal. They don’t exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn’t with them, it’s with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

“I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho ‘oponopono means loving yourself.

“If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.

“I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients’ files?

“‘I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again,’ he explained.

“That’s it?

“That’s it.

“Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.

“Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.

“This time, I decided to try Dr. Len’s method. I kept silently saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you,’ I didn’t say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

“Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn’t take any outward action to get that apology. I didn’t even write him back. Yet, by saying ‘I love you,’ I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

“I later attended a ho ‘oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He’s now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.

He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book’s vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

“‘What about the books that are already sold and out there?’ I asked.

“‘They aren’t out there,’ he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. ‘They are still in you.’ In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves.

“Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there’s only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love.”

Joe Vitale and Dr Hew Len
This “miracle story” goes around the world for many years. Dr Hew Len gives courses and workshops about Ho’Oponopono.
Together with Joe Vitale Dr. Hew Len published the book “zero limits”.

Sources:
http://educate-yourself.org/zsl/hooponopono25jul06.shtml
http://theworstmother.wordpress.com/2011/05/01/hooponopono-huh/